Stay no contact. Heal on your own terms.
Choosing Me is your private companion for healing after a breakup — a no-contact timer, a place for the messages you'll never send, and an SOS button for the hard moments. Everything stays on your device. No accounts, no cloud, no one else can see your journey.
of no contact — best streak saved
Illustration — not an app screenshot
The hardest part of a breakup is 11pm
You know contact would set you back. But the urge to text, to check, to "just say one thing" doesn't care what you know. Willpower alone isn't a system — and most tracking apps want your data in their cloud at your most vulnerable moment.
What makes no contact so hard
- Urges hit hardest at night, when no one is around to talk you down.
- One slip can feel like all your progress is gone.
- The things you wish you could say keep circling in your head.
- Nostalgia edits out the red flags and the reasons it ended.
How Choosing Me answers each one
- An SOS panic button with breathing exercises and your "remember why" list.
- A timer that resets with self-compassion — your best streak is always saved.
- Unsent messages: write everything you wish you could say, without the regret of sending it.
- An ick list of the red flags and reasons it ended, ready when you miss them.
Everything you need to choose yourself
Eight tools, one quiet place to heal. Every feature below ships in the app today.
No-contact timer
Track how long you've maintained no contact and celebrate milestones from your first day to 90 days. If you slip, reset with self-compassion — your best streak is always saved.
Unsent messages
Need to say something? Write it here instead of sending it. A safe space to express everything you wish you could say — without the regret of actually sending it.
Guided journal
Over 40 prompts to help you process emotions, reflect on the relationship, and plan your future. Track your mood with each entry and watch your progress over time.
Cognitive reframe
Based on CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), this tool helps you identify negative thought patterns and reframe them into balanced, helpful perspectives — with examples to guide you.
SOS panic button
For the moments you want to reach out: breathing exercises, your personal "remember why" list, and quick access to your ick list — everything you need to stay strong.
Daily mood check-in
Log how you feel each day with a simple mood slider and emotion tags. A 30-day mood chart shows your healing progress, visualized.
Daily affirmations
Curated affirmations for breakup recovery. Save your favorites and let them remind you of your worth.
Ick list
Write down the red flags, the annoying habits, the reasons it ended. Read it when you miss them — to remember why you're choosing yourself.
How Choosing Me fits into your healing
No contact isn't about punishing anyone. It's about giving yourself uninterrupted space to recover. Here's the rhythm the app supports.
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Start your streak
Begin the no-contact timer the day you decide to stop reaching out. Milestones from day one to day 90 give you something to protect.
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Redirect the urges
When you want to text them, open the SOS button or write the message as an unsent message instead. The feeling gets out — the text never does.
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Process, don't suppress
Work through 40+ guided journal prompts, log a daily mood check-in, and use the CBT-based reframe tool when your thoughts spiral into worst-case stories.
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Watch yourself heal
Your 30-day mood chart makes progress visible even on days it doesn't feel like it. Affirmations and your best-streak record remind you how far you've come.
Privacy first — because heartbreak is nobody's business
What you write during a breakup is some of the most personal writing you'll ever do. Choosing Me is built so it never leaves your hands.
- All data stored locally on your device
- Optional PIN lock for extra privacy
- No account required
- No cloud sync
- No analytics or tracking
- Your thoughts are yours alone
Frequently asked questions
Yes. All data is stored locally on your device. There is no account to create, no cloud sync, and no analytics or tracking. You can also add an optional PIN lock for extra privacy. Your thoughts are yours alone.
You reset the timer with self-compassion and start again — your best streak is always saved. The app celebrates milestones from your first day to 90 days, so a slip never erases the progress you have already made.
No. Choosing Me is a self-help companion, not a substitute for professional mental-health care. Its cognitive reframe tool is based on CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) techniques and includes examples to guide you, but if you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional.
Choosing Me is listed at $4.99 (USD) on the App Store. No account is required to use it.
It is for the moments when you want to reach out to your ex. It gives you breathing exercises, your personal "remember why" list, and quick access to your ick list — everything you need in one place to stay strong until the urge passes.
Choosing Me runs on iPhone and iPad with iOS 15.1 or later, and is localized in 31 languages including English, Spanish, French, German, Japanese, Korean, and Arabic. A Google Play version is not currently listed.
Guides for your no-contact journey
Practical, honest reading for the hard weeks — written to help whether or not you use the app.
The No-Contact Rule, Explained
What no contact actually means, why it works, and how to set boundaries you can keep.
30, 60, or 90 Days?
How long no contact should last, what changes in each phase, and how to know you're ready.
When You Want to Text Your Ex
Nine things to do instead of sending that message — and why the urge always passes.
Journaling Through Heartbreak
Why writing helps you heal, plus 15 breakup journal prompts to get you started tonight.
You deserve to choose yourself
Built with care for your healing journey. Private by design, on your phone tonight.